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Mar
12

Relationship Etiquette – Part 2

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Yesterday I posted a blog that may have burned some bridges. Some bridges should never be crossed in the first place. Sometimes you just have to weed out those things and cut the numbers down so you have a clear path to walk. Honestly, I do not care if I hurt any feelings, anger anyone, or make you feel like you’re wrong. You can send me hate mail later, but it isn’t going to make a difference. How I feel about myself, my surroundings, everything in life, is 100% up to me. Some people may feel that I’m irrational, some may think I am insane. Some might think that I’m just hard-headed and that I should just accept certain things in life and just move on. To anyone that says any of these things, I want you to take a good long hard look inside yourself and ask yourself why you would just lie down and accept what everyone tells you to.

I’ve sat by for years, just watching. I’ve seen a lot of what used to be considered wrong, be pushed into society and much of it has become the acceptable norm. Things that I don’t believe in, but have been told I should accept because everyone else does. I have been told I am ignorant for having beliefs. I’m here to tell you something else.

IGNORANCE is the acceptance of anything and everything with blind eyes. In other words, you might not believe drug use is ok, but you’ll turn your head when someone you know does it. You’ll just accept it and pretend that it doesn’t exist. You won’t say anything about it. THAT my friends, is ignorance. THAT is narrow-minded. Not standing up for yourself and keeping that tunnel vision on nothing but your own little world, pretending like there’s nothing outside of it, because you don’t want to offend anyone. That is fear.

We have become a politically correct society. We’ve had all kinds of wonderful things crammed down our throats. And people just keep accepting it. Why? Do you not have anything inside of you that tells you something isn’t right? Do you not have your own beliefs? Your own convictions? Do you just want to accept what is thrown at you and then pretend as though you have a right to go after someone that doesn’t accept it? That’s what I’ve been seeing.

The reason I posted that blog yesterday, was so everyone that reads about me, knows that too many lines have been crossed. It’s been a long walk through life so far, and I’m 28 years old. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life being forced to take a step back from everything I believe in myself so that others can take advantage. After so much experience, one can either continue on the same path, or one can stand firm in his or her beliefs. I have sacrificed my own happiness for other people in the past, and as selfish as it sounds, it got me nothing. I have crossed the lines I had drawn, I compromised what I believed in. I have made some very bad choices in my life. At some point, after the dust had settled, I made a choice that I would no longer be that person.

The point came where I decided that I would never back down from what I believed. I stand firm in my belief in God most of all. People may sit there and tell me the Bible is just a fairy tale. Even if it was, I ask you, tell me what harm can come of those who would use it’s lessons? You can’t. So that argument is completely thrown out the window and you have no more to say to me.

So what does this have to do with relationship etiquette?

Simple; When you get involved with someone, they need to have the same ideas. The same beliefs. The same principles. Opposites may attract, but they never line up correctly. Not saying a relationship of opposites can’t work, but how often does it mesh?

Yesterday’s blog was written after years of observation. Years of dealing with the same thing over and over again. I will NOT compromise what is right. And what I said yesterday is the truth. It is fact. It is not some random act out of irritiability. If you sit down and think about it, I mean REALLY think, instead of rejecting it because it’s not something society says is the right way to think, then it just might get through to you. You’ll see that in all of it, the entire thing boils down to respecting your partner.

Love is pain, and sometimes love is sacrifice. The things that you may have to sacrifice in a relationship aren’t meant to harm you. They are things you generally do not need. That is unless you’re struggling financially and instead of buying food for yourself, you buy food for the person you love. There are some differences. However, you do not need to continue on a relationship with someone if you allegedly love the person you are with in the present.

You cannot live in the present if you keep your past with you. The only part of the past you need are the memories. Those memories can guide you in your decisions for the future. Again, I’m talking about relationships here. If you were with someone and broke up for whatever reason, it is completely unreasonable to allow that person to be present in a current relationship. It’s disrespectful, and 100% wrong to put someone you love through that. You can’t tell me otherwise. It IS wrong.

It is wrong to expect someone to change who they are. I have done this in the past. And I will not do it again. If I’m in a relationship and I see this point, I will walk away. No questions asked, no need to explain. There are 6 Billion people in this world and I can’t please them all. Nor can any of you.

When you’re in a relationship there are a number of things you have to keep in mind. Some things come naturally to people, some people have to work really hard at it. In truth, you shouldn’t have to work at it. It should be natural if it is right. But again, it all comes down to respect. If you love someone, you will respect them. You will do things the right way the first time because you know what is right and wrong. Throw away the ideas that everyone else has planted in your heads about what the norm should be.

For once, do what is right. Make your own decisions. And do it because you believe in it.

To be continued….

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Mar
12

Relationship Etiquette – Part 1

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I’ve thought about writing this for months. Well, much longer than that. Sometimes I’ll let something bother me for long enough and then I’ll sit down and do something about it, or I will remove that aspect from my life. Either way, things happen, and I move on. Some things are more painful than others, some things leave scars, some are forgettable. But the truth is, learn from your mistakes, and keep those things in the forefront so you have something to help guide your decision making in the future.

However, there is one thing that I have difficulty moving on with, and that’s “ex chat.”

This is something I honestly didn’t really have to deal with during my younger dating years. Sometimes I think I had a little more sense. Sense in who I chose to get close to that is.

Now, some of you may think to yourselves that I’m about to contradict myself here. In some very minor way, MAYBE I will. But I assure you, it is for the purpose of example only, so that you may better understand my reasoning.

It seems to me there should be some boundaries in relationships. Not only when it comes to the relationship itself, but the content of each and every conversation should be monitored carefully for the dreaded and blatant use of an ex’s name, and/or happenings with that ex. Now, there are circumstances when an ex can be brought up… if you were married to that ex, or if you had a child or children with that ex. Or both, which would generally be the case.

If I bring up an ex in conversation, it is usually a means by which I explain my reasoning for the future. I do not however, continue explaining who that person was, or many of the unecessary details pertainig to the lives we briefly shared.

For example, there are a number of things you should not bring into a relationship when it comes to an ex, or exes:

1. I do not want to hear about you losing your virginity. I don’t want to hear the name of the guy you lost it to, I certainly don’t want to see a picture, and PLEASE spare me the explicit details of the act.

2. I do not want to hear about how many people you have slept with. If you’ve spent some time on the street corner, we have a problem. And if you in short tell me you’ve been around the block way too many times, then you may want to search elsewhere. Yes, that bothers me. So don’t tell me about all the people you’ve had sex with, and for the love of God, don’t sit there and list off names, and again, no pictures.

3. This is a huge point of contention for me. Why do you HAVE to be friends with your ex(es)? WHY? I stay in contact with a couple of the people I’ve dated. An occasional email, or MAYBE a phone call once every 4 or 6 months, etc… just to say hi, see if they’re ok. We know the boundaries… have some respect. Anything beyond that, ESPECIALLY when you’re in a relationship, is just plain rude!! The last thing I really want to do is stand there and shake hands with some random person you’ve had sex with and laugh and sing and enjoy thoughts of memories past. Maybe it means nothing to you, but if you had any morals, maybe it would.

4. This pretty much goes off the last one. If you want to remain friends with your ex, then that’s wonderful. But don’t plan on me sticking around to watch you to play in the dirt. I’m not 12 years old anymore and it certainly isn’t cute. It also isn’t cute when your ex pretends I do not exist and plans your days for your without acknowledging that you are in fact involved in a relationship. Bestest buddies with ex = Me leaving you.

5. An ex is an ex for a reason. Hey, if your ex hurt you in some way, it understandable that you will talk about it. In fact I do want to know what that person did so that I can avoid making the same mistakes. However, I have noticed that there have been remarkable comparisons between certain people and their exes, such as a similarity in breakups, etc… In other words, if you had 5 boyfriends, and they all ended the same way, there may be a common denominator: You. If that’s the case and you sit there and try to talk bad about them, then I’ll know something is up. Seen it before. I’m also a bit tired of the cliche: “We’re better off as friends.” MOVE ON ALREADY. I assure you, in 10 years when you’re still wondering why you can’t find a decent human being to share your life with, it’s because you won’t move on. The only people you will attract are those that just want to get in your shorts, and then they will leave you, because they don’t want to deal with the person from your past who keeps showing up at the door.

Now, I’ve made some mistakes in the past, and I’ve learned quite a bit from them. Most of you know my background. I don’t like to hide anything. You also know that my level of contact with certain people has been completely cutt off, or if not, has been kept open for very minimum, specific reason, and it certainly isn’t for the purpose of giggling like school girls over the phone.

There are more items I’d like to add to this list, and I will continue to do so as I remember. If this offends you in some way, then so be it. I’ve settled for less in the past, I’m not going to do it ever again. I stand by what I believe, and quite frankly, I don’t care if I’m standing alone when all is said and done. I’d rather be standing alone, than with you, and your ex boyfriend.

Thanks : D

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Mar
12

Screw The Vatican

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A few words on a discussion I had earlier…

So if you’re easily offended, this is probably not going to be for you. If you are catholic, you may end up wanting to murder me if you read this. But I will say this: I can stand my ground on everything I’m about to say because I am 100% correct in the following. All it took was a little research, and a whole lot of common sense.

Many of you who have taken the time to read my blogs, etc… understand that I have roots in the penticostal church. While I have strayed very far from those roots, mainly the fundamentalist belief system set forth by the people who ran these organizations, I still have beliefs in the premise of the Bible, basic Christianity in general. However, I will NEVER call myself a Christian simply because I am not what a Christian represents, and that is Christ. No one can rightfully call themselves “Christian” if they understand the actually meaning behind the word.

So in this discussion, I figured something else out. I mean, I already knew it, but not in the same context. And it has to do with catholicism. I know what you’re thinking… “ZOMG!! Is he going to bash catholicism?”

And I answer:  Yes. I am.

While I don’t think my approach at some things are exactly tactful, I’m not the most politically correct person in the world. I don’t like to candy coat garbage, which is what I see a lot of every day every time I open up cnn.com or foxnews.com. People’s priorities in life are SCREWED UP. Things have gone backwards, and I disagree with a massive chunk of the crap that’s swirling around the toilet this country is turning into.

For example, people will immediately jump down my throat and up my ass and call me a homophobe if I say I disagree with gay rights. They say “You are intolerant, you HAVE to agree to gay rights.” Oh, do I?

Does anyone not see the irony in this? Intolerant people preaching tolerance and trying to force it down my throat, in essence, trying to force me to conform to their beliefs. Calling me narrowminded for MAKING UP MY OWN MIND AND NOT FOLLOWING THE HERD. Someone who is “open minded” is someone who is able to form their own opinions, beliefs, etc… based on observation. This is what I do. And I’m wrong for this? Why? Because MTV showcases this shit on the real world?

Yes, I am angry.

So how does this all tie in with catholicism you ask? Simple. It is a fake religion that plays on what people are willing to get themselves into for some feeling of comfort. It’s the EASY way out. It is a pagan religion that is the polar opposite of anything Christian.

“But catholics believe in Jesus!”

So do muslims, jehovah’s witnesses, mormons, and all of the christian denominations.

Does it make them right? No.

So let’s just get down to it. I’d like you all find a few things in your Bibles, look  it up online if you don’t have one. Please, PLEASE show me where the Bible states the following:

1. Confession (to a priest)
2. Baptizing infants
3. Praying to the saints
4. Praying to Mary
5. ANYTHING about a pope
6. Nuns
7. Priests can’t marry

The list goes on and on and on….

These are just a few examples of things that are not Biblical. Do you remember where I said it was a pagan religion? See numbers 3 and 4? What are you doing when you pray to or worship something other than God according to the Bible? That’s right kids… idols!

I’m as much as a saint as St. Patrick and Mother Theresa. Just another human that will in my own time die and rot, just like every single one of us eventually does. As it stands, they’re working to get the last pope canonized, (made into a saint so people can worship and pray to him, just as the Bible says NOT to do).

The catholic church is nothing more than a corporation, people. The pope is it’s CEO. And guess what? As gas prices rise so high we’re drowning to keep afloat, at least the big oil companies provide products such as gasoline. The catholic church just rakes in money, does not pay taxes, and gives you nothing in return but a false sense of salvation. It goes against the very basis of it’s foundation, yet people flock to it.

Furthermore, what “religion” has a right to kick you out of the church? Excommunication. PLEASE. No one has power over God.

If you care to do your own research, by all means, please do.

Here’s a start:

http://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/LVanswers/2004-04-01.htm

While I do not affiliate myself with the church of Christ, the power of Google has compelled me. There are a ton of sites out there that actually point out scripture versus catholic teachings.

All in all, I’ve been doing a lot of questioning lately. Externally, internally…. everything. I’d rather get rid of the garbage so it’s not in my way when it comes to making choices. If you can logically discount something, especially when you find enough contradictory information about it, then GET RID OF IT. I could unfortunately go on about this for a very long time because you simply cannot ignore things right in front of your face. It amazes me that this fake religion has taken in so many people and hardly anyone asks any questions.

I’m sure I’ll end up writing about this again, along with mormons and jehovah’s witnesses. But I’m tired. If I’ve pissed you off, oh well.

Enjoy.

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Today started off in a great manner.  I had a pleasant commute to work, enjoyed a Starbucks coffee on the way, and watched the sun rise.  I get to my desk, and had an e-mail waiting for me with a subject line of “Letter From Our CEO”.  This letter talked about how the company used to get third party capital from a certain bank and now they do not feel comfortable with that bank.  They then stated they would stop using third party capital altogether, but it would involve some pain.  The pain is that they are going to delay our payroll for 2 weeks–essentially we are working with no pay for two weeks.  I would feel safe betting that the CEO and executives are not included in this payroll delay.

Instead of the company holding itself accountable for it’s financial problems, the are instead putting the burden on us employees.  They gave us a 3 day notice stating that we won’t be getting paid on Friday this week.  Just like every American, I have bills to pay and mouths to feed.  My creditors provide services to me with the agreement that I will pay them in return.  If I don’t pay them on time, they will be holding me accountable with late fees, phone calls, notices, etc.  I agree to provide services to my employer in exchange for timely compensation.  The part that bothers me is if my employer doesn’t pay me on time, there is no retribution whatsoever.  I can’t send them late fees or put a ding on their credit.  I cannot do anything.  I just sit here knowing that I gave them a bunch of time and in my position time equals money.  The kicker is that my employer is a subcontractor to another company, so my employer is getting paid for the work I have performed–but they are not passing that pay on to me.

Once again, it seems that the only people being held accountable for anything are the honest, hard-working, middle-class people who live within their means.  I would love to boycott my company, but I am stuck in a hard place because I am the breadwinner for my family.  If I walk off the job in protest, there are a hundred people waiting to take my job.  I have to eat their financial problems because the executives won’t hold themselves accountable.  I have to somehow continue to be motivated to work for this company despite the fact that I just gave them 80 hours of work for free.  And I also have to try and convince myself that my company isn’t on the verge of collapse–because e-mails like these almost always come before the real bad news.

Something smells fishy here.

:)

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Mar
09

Hello, I am Unaccountable

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As I am driving to work on this dreary Monday morning, I encounter a bit of congestion on the freeway–but not enough to slow down traffic.  A few minutes later, I see flashing lights behind me.  It is an unmarked law-enforcement SUV, and he is apparently heading to an emergency of some sorts.  I make my way over to the right shoulder to let him by, and notice that there is nothing identifying this vehicle as even being an official vehicle other than the flashing lights in the grill and on the back doors.  The license plate was a state government plate, which (in my state) could mean it was a state, county, city, or educational institution vehicle.

I normally wouldn’t have a problem yielding to an emergency vehicle, but today I did.  You see, this unmarked law enforcement SUV turned off his lights after he passed the majority of the traffic.  The congested spot was going the speed limit and not slowing down traffic, but apparently this was too slow for the unmarked cop car.  The unmarked vehicle passed me and the others at a speed that was well over the speed limit.  A few miles later, the SUV was back in traffic and doing the speed limit–but with no flashing lights.  This left me even more confused until I realized what had happened over these short few miles–we crossed county lines and he is probably now in jurisdiction where he has to behave.  The bottom line is the cop used his flashing lights to get around traffic even though he had no legitimate need to do so.  This person is someone who feels they are above the law and are entitled to not only use emergency lights in an unofficial manner, but also to drive at speeds above the speed limit.  And because they are in a semi-unmarked cop car outside of their jurisdiction, they know there is pretty much a guarantee they will get away with it.  I am going to call this person, Officer Unaccountable.

What happened to folks being accountable for their actions?  Slowly over time, this cop morphed into the pile of garbage he is because folks didn’t hold him accountable for minute and trivial things.  It probably started with him speeding in his cop car, then morphed into him driving his cop car to his house 25 miles away (even though he is only supposed to drive it a maximum of 5 miles), then he was promoted and talked his way into an unmarked car, and soon realized that cars will yield to his emergency lights even if he just uses them for fun.  Today, it would take me hours to trace down what agency this vehicle belongs to and who I would need to contact to file a complaint.

This story has bearing on things locally and nationally.  Everyone is pissed off about big executives getting huge bonuses and making millions of dollars.  Being upset at them is ridiculous–you need to be upset at all the people that enabled them to get to this point.  An assembly line worker didn’t just walk into a CEO position one day and have money thrown at them.  These CEOs worked their way up the corporate ladder, and eventually were making ridiculous amounts of money.  Who enabled them?  The shareholders did.  In a normal corporation, there is a board of directors.  This board of directors is elected by the shareholders.  Shareholders who are pissed off about the executives should stop whining and begging for government intervention–and instead should use their shareholder voting rights to elect different leadership.  But oh no…Why would the shareholders ever hold themselves accountable for the idiots they have allowed to be in power?  I am going to call these folks Mr. and Mrs. Unaccountable Shareholder.

What about all the people and businesses asking for a bailout?  This is just getting ridiculous.  In a normal world, people are held accountable for their financial decisions.  When you sign the dotted line on a new mortgage, you agree to make payments as agreed upon in the loan contract.  You should have done your homework prior to signing this line and determined how much you could afford to borrow.  Instead, you have more idiots who went out and got a $250K adjustable rate mortgage on a house with an artificially inflated value. And when the interest rates went up, these folks came crying to the government for help.  The flood of homes in this situation caused housing values to drop back to where they should be and this made a perfect storm.  The folks, like me, who bought a reasonably priced home with a FIXED-RATE mortgage, have no worries–except about how they are going to be paying for the STUPIDITY of others.  Instead of holding the “stupids” accountable, the government is instead helping them pay for their mortgage and rewriting the contract loans for them.  Mr. and Mrs. Live Above Our Means are crying out claiming that the banks are to blame, yada yada yada bullshit.  I would love to hear them out, but the last time I checked–the banks were not holding guns to their heads, forcing them to sign the papers for the adjustable rate mortgage for their overpriced stupid house.

Now…what about the banks?  Have the banks done wrong?  Nope.  The banks have merely done what people have allowed them to do.  The entire banking mess stems from the passage of the Federal Reserve Act in 1913.  This act created a PRIVATE centralized banking system, with very little accountability and oversight.  Over a period of several decades, this private banking system has devalued the US dollar by creating massive amounts of money out of thin air.  They have done this through fractional lending and this practice ultimately ends with a collapse of the dollar.  Citizens of the USA need not cry about how the banks have ruined everything, but instead should cry out to the government to END the Federal Reserve banking system.  The US Government, not the banks, needs to be held accountable for the current fiasco.

Some things will never change though.  Things will remain the same as long as folks keep watching American Idol and believing that creating trillions of dollars of new currency to bail out our economy.  Officer Unaccountable, Mr. & Mrs. Unaccountable Shareholders, and Mr. & Mrs. Live Above Our Means will remain unaccountable and will continue to see themselves in the wrong light–instead of doing what is right and admitting they have done some wrong.

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